PinnedThe Ultimate Guide to Self-Actualization (Beyond the Self-Improvement Grind)So, Self-Improvement Didn’t Make You Happy? — Many people — maybe also you — start the new year, the new month, or the new day with the intention to become better, more productive, efficient, calm, focused, happy. …Psychology27 min read
Published in Mind Cafe·PinnedThe Miracle Question Used by PsychotherapistsTo find the right solution to the right problem. — Whether you ever went to psychotherapy or just pondered your own problems for a long time, you might have experienced the following: At first, there is just an uncomfortable emotion, maybe irritation, anger or sadness. Then you think you found what the cause, i.e. the problem, of this emotion is…Self5 min read
Nov 15, 2021Introduction to Alfred AdlerThe Unknown Psychology Giant of the Last Century — Alfred Adler (1870–1937) was next to Sigmund Freud and Carl Gustav Jung one of the three great psychodynamic thinkers of the last century. He was Sigmund Freud’s prodigy and supposed to be the heir of his psychoanalytic tradition that would then continue and thrive long after Freud’s death. Breaking with Sigmund Freud But just…Psychology4 min read
Published in Mind Cafe·Nov 9, 2021A Simple Psychotherapy Tool to Move Toward What MattersBecause Avoiding Won’t Get You a Meaningful Life. — What is important to you? And I mean really important. What dreams, values, and goals are you striving for? And why have you not reached them, yet? My guess is that, while moving toward your goals and dreams, you’ve encountered your personal beasts. The guardians of the gate to perceived…Psychology5 min read
Published in P.S. I Love You·Jan 9, 2021An Old Psychological Theory to Simplify Your RelationshipsThe Separation of Tasks — by Alfred Adler. — We like to think of ourselves as totally independent. We like to believe we are free-willed — “I did it my way” — “I can do it on my own” kind of people. While taking radical responsibility for our own lives is incredibly important, we sometimes forget just how interconnected…Psychology5 min read
Published in Mind Cafe·Dec 31, 2020A 100-Year-Old Psychological Concept to Help Find BelongingIf you haven’t heard of Alfred Adler, it’s time. — Loneliness has become a risk factor for early death and tremendously decreases the quality of life of way too many people. Meanwhile what most of us long for is a sense of belonging, being part of a community, to find our tribe. Alfred Adler was one of the three great…Psychology4 min read
Sep 17, 2020Relationship Advice In 7 Quotes From Couples Therapist Esther PerelThat will likely change how you look at relationships forever. — Esther Perel has been a couple’s therapist for over 35 years. She has seen and heard it all. She has written about desire and infidelity, given TedTalks and recorded multiple podcasts. You might find that some of her words ring so true, it will be beautiful and painful at the…Relationships7 min read
Published in Invisible Illness·Aug 14, 2020The Dark Side of MeditationFrom unpleasant experiences to psychotic symptoms — Meditation is everywhere and seemingly everyone is practicing it. Countless meditation retreats have popped out of nowhere, and if you don’t make it to India, Indonesia, or Thailand, you can certainly use an app like Headspace or Calm. In general, both meditation and mindfulness practices do hold a great benefit…Mindfulness7 min read
Published in Entrepreneur's Handbook·Jul 23, 2020How To Save Your Company From Co-founder ConflictsLessons from relationship expert Esther Perel — According to research, 65% of startups fail because of disagreements between the co-founders¹. Still, for decades the main focus has been on capital, ROI, business strategy, you name it. …Business7 min read
Published in The Post-Grad Survival Guide·Jun 26, 20203 Things My Business Degree Taught MeEven though I hated it — I recently started an online business — well, I’m in the process of starting one to be exact. Given that I have a Bachelor’s degree in Business Administration from a very reputable university, you think that all the administrative work of starting a business would come easy to me. How…Life4 min read